Does Shimla offer enough safety & better treatment to women?
Eve teasing in Shimla- victims share their worse experiences
SHIMLA- With the recent Delhi Gang rape case, all of a sudden, there is a huge hue and cry among the entire Nation which leaves many females including me wonder whether to feel proud that finally the Nation has one voice or laugh our hearts out that no measure is taken when the problem is at its initial stage and now all of a sudden the Nation awakens.
No doubt, what happened with the poor girl is something so horrible that it is beyond expression and when a place like National capital is so insecure so finally I tried to take stock of Shimla, a small capital of Himachal Pradesh and some people shared their experiences though not so extreme but something that should make authorities themselves bow their heads in shame.
One of a known second year college student narrated her most recent experience saying, “We were all walking in group to catch a bus from local bus stand to reach Summer Hill and we all took a shortcut from the CTO. While walking down the slope near the Command we had school students walking behind us. One of them commented chalo eke k ko utha lete hai and when one the girl objected saying they should consider their age, the boy shamelessly replied who cares about age these days? His reply left us all jaw dropped and without a word we people had to leave the place.”
On the other hand in my own locality few months back a young first year student was forcefully kissed by the general store owner when she had gone to get milk packets from his shop but unfortunately no police complaint was filed by the victim’s family considering the so called lark eke izzat ka swaal hai. The culprit is all free and is still running his shop and the worst part his own children were elder to the poor girl he laid his hand on.
While sharing experience in local public buses another girl, who was even one of my office collogue, had tears in her eyes when asked to share her any such experience. She after catching hold of herself shared “public transport especially after 6 in winters is not a blessing at all. So many people are yanked in like cattle and no all but some people try to feel you and it’s really unbearable. One cannot complain as they say it’s so crowded but being a female our sixth sense, do tell us the intention of the touch.”
Other than these experiences, the most shocking was of my neighbor who went shopping with her 3 years daughter. She happened to visit a footwear shop to buy her a slipper. She asked the salesman to show her something nice saying mujhe kuch sundar chaheye a common way any person describes what they want. But the reply she got was shocking the fellow says, “Sundar is on leave why do u need him?” and the owner of the shop himself was standing right there and didn’t say anything to the fellow for misbehaving but instead verbally pounced on the her.
Another debatable question is how to define weather it was eve teasing or not for incident some people feel sexy to be a compliment whereas for some it’s a comment. A girl finds some comments made on them objectionable but for police it’s something not so serious. For example if we consider missed calls from unknown numbers again the poor girls have nothing to say to police but they are mental harassment to them and poor victims are compelled to switch off their phones and many times even change their numbers permanently.
Another debatable question is how to define weather it was eve teasing or not for incident some people feel sexy to be a compliment whereas for some it’s a comment. A girl finds some comments made on them objectionable but for police it’s something not so serious.
Many local females find areas like Sanjauli, State Bank, Lakkar Bazzar, Lal Pani, Kalibari stretch and Local Bus stand as insecure zones and are all mentally prepared to hear comments any time of the day but especially evenings.
After the things go wrong, people make an issue out of it but when it is happening, no one bothers to help the victim for incident I personally once shouted for help while returning home from my work as someone blocked my way but people on road simply ignored as if they didn’t even hear it.
Personally have reported complaint for eve teasing but no action was taken and only I was told to avoid getting into the messy situation and definitely I too didn’t had any proof of the verbal comment so I too stepped back.
No wonder crime rate especially against women is less as we don’t raise our voice and we all live in illusion we are safe but deep down in our mind we know tomorrow is a new battle to fight and heaven knows Bakre ke ma kab tak khair mnaayege.
The name of the author and the victims have not been mentioned due to privacy issues